Your Spouse as Healthcare Agent? Perhaps NOT!
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Jane said: “In my June 2015 newsletter, I spoke about CHOOSING your Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare, also known as a Healthcare Agent. I emphasized the importance of addressing three criteria when making this decision. As a refresher, here they are. The person you choose should:
What are the Pro’s and Con’s of having a spouse be your healthcare agent? Over 40 years ago, my mother chose me, not my father, to be her healthcare agent. He fully met the first two criteria, but she felt that he wouldn’t be able to meet the third, because of the type of care she would want when “the crisis” occurred. She believed I would best be able to advocate for her. Then she told everyone in the family her wishes. Spouses frequently struggle with the choices their loved ones make. If they can’t support those decisions, or advocate for them, they’re not the right person to assume this role. Whomever you choose to be your healthcare agent, speak with them to make sure they meet all three.”
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QUALITY of Life
Patient stays in control. Can you hear Frank Sinatra singing, “I Did It My Way”?
Shared Decision Making with your medical team and your family
Patient prepares written documentation, EXIT STRATEGY instructions, for family to carry out their End of Life [EOL] wishes
Patient insists on EOL conversations with medical team
Patient writes their Bucket List
Patient researches his/her disease(s) to anticipate next stages/next steps
Patient develops Legacy Plan for family and community
Learn “A-N-D” – Allow Natural Death
Learn meaning of Palliative Care
Research benefits of early enrollment in Hospice, to enhance the quality of final days. Surviving family members receive bereavement services for first year.
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CON arguments: I can’t think of any, can you?
QUANTITY of Life
Perhaps you want to live long enough to experience a major event? A graduation? A birth? A wedding?
Help me out here–I personally can’t imagine trying to stay alive longer. If you have some input, please send me your comments.
This list could get very long. I personally evaluate through the lens of how much PAIN would I have to endure? How much will it COST?
Many doctors avoid the agonizing treatments or surgeries that they put their patients through. Do an internet search on Futile Medical Treatment. My Google search yielded 576,000 results.
A few years ago I read this article by Dr. Ken Murray: http://www.zocalopublicsquare.org/2011/11/30/how-doctors-die/ideas/nexus/
Now, tell me what you think!